I was just telling my good friend that if I could take every guy I've ever dated/non-dated/quasi-dated and smash all of their awesomeness into one super great guy...I would be set for life. And the beautiful part is that I really haven't dated that many guys, I've just been fortunate enough to date/non-date/quasi-date some really awesome ones. I have been really blessed with really mostly great relationships that have generally led to really awesome friendships.
And rather than sit here and straight out define what/when/where/why and hows on them (mostly because I know at least one or two of them occasionally check my blog and I don't want to be THAT girl)...I think I will just say that what I was looking for in a man when I graduated college is far from what I'm looking for in a man now. This is mostly because I have met these amazingly driven, well-spoken, hard-working, loyal kind of men whom I admire. The term "good man" has taken on a whole new meaning for me. It's not about the boys anymore...I just want a good man.
I once had a friend tell me that he would never call a woman beautiful unless he planned to marry her. Of course the guy told me this in college when I wasn't getting any or even turning many heads so the day a man called me beautiful kind of jacked me up. But I will say this - I am sure that I will marry a man who I can confidently call good. And that will probably be one of the best compliments I would ever be able to give.
I don't know why this is important to say now. Perhaps I'm reflecting on the good of the last few years as I'm preparing to pack up and move out to the new frontier. But this past weekend especially has made me really reflect on the good men I have been blessed to know.
I guess I just wanted to say thank you to the men who have so impacted my life in the past few years. These men who have made me feel beautiful; who have challenged me to be better physically, socially, spiritually, and academically; who have made me laugh until I cried; who have challenged (and beat) me in Disney Scene It; who have made me a part of their group of friends; who have opened their hearts to me; who have participated in my silliness; who are smarter than me and remind me often to keep me humble and grounded; who have held me while I nap after a long day of work; who have always volunteered a Disney movie option; who play me in racquetball and don't let me win (and get really mad when I do!); who play Disneyopoly and various board/card games whenever I ask; who always plan the perfect date; who have never let me get away with being negative about myself; and who have not been deterred by my sarcasm but have met it head on with equally excellent wit :)
These are the good men who have taught me about becoming a good woman and for that I will always be grateful.
